Why do bipolar people lie and cheat

I am still coming to terms with everything I have recently found out. One thing I am not coping with is the lack of remorse my partner is showing, I know he knows how much he has hurt me, but unfortunately because of his bipolar, he is almost incapable of showing any real emotional support, or any type of reasoning.

I have no idea what I'm going to do from here on, but I can't thank you all enough, your comments have shown a light I needed! Hello Skye, thanks for getting back to us and I'm please we've been able to shed a little light on the situation for you.

I'm not defending your husband, and he might well take the diagnosis very differently to me. But in my case, getting the diagnosis was an immense thing to deal with. I was diagnosed early this year, after many years of being treated for depression and after a long struggle with alcoholism we are prone to self-medicaton with booze or drugs or sex - anything to help us find oblivion or indulge the mania.

While I was in some ways glad to have a diagnosis and start treatment, it also made me reassess so many things about my life. Things I had never understood suddenly fell into place - all of them bad. I resented going through so much, putting my family through so much when, if I'd been diagnosed earlier they might not have happened. And, I also had to accept that this was for life. I would always be this way. It's both a relief and a regret to learn that so that so many things you thought about yourself and about other people, the grand ideas, the certainty that you were right and others wrong, the arguments, the obsessiveness So, for me at least, my first responses were all about poor me.

But once I got my head around it, the remorse and the regret came. Oh did it come. And it hasn't gone either. I'm learning to handle it, but I know it will probably always be there to a certain extent. What I'm saying is that it's early days for your husband. Everyone reacts differently of course, but it could be he has a lot to take in and think about, and certainly the infidelity is part of that.

But if he's like me, he could well be thinking through a whole lot of stuff right now. It's almost like suddenly finding out you're not the person you thought you were. Of course you must still make your own way through this, and take care of you. You have to think through what's most important to YOU. But again I'd say if you can, give it time. Learn everything you can about the disorder.

Talk to him, ask him to be honest about what's going on in his head. And know that treatment takes time to kick in - he needs to patient with that too. It can be months. I feel for you Skye. For both of you. Please know you can come here anytime you want to chat. Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. You are currently: Home Get support Online forums.

Online forums Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile Complete your profile. Forum membership is open to anyone residing in Australia. Cancel The title field is required! I have never felt such betrayal in all my life, but i still don't hate him, and I'm still so prepared to work things out with him. I have read so many webpages specifically bi-polar based webpages on bi-polar infidelity being related to the hypersexulaity that comes with the hypermania.

Last year, when I wrote about my own experience with infidelity, the initial response was a little overwhelming. Surely if I am going to air my dirty laundry I should be prepared for what will come. I was not prepared though for the judgement that would be passed by one person who had read my blog. I am going to assume this one person had been badly betrayed by someone he had loved, many times. If this is so it would be statistically significant.

Most bipolar women are hyper-sexual when manic and have many one night stands mixed in with phone and Internet sex as well as long standing affairs. The appearance of a single data point says that you have the moral flexibility for infidelity and deceit and as these manic episodes are cyclic in nature I am curious if you have admitted to the least of your behaviour and are still hiding the rest of the iceberg. I takes low self esteem as well as poor boundaries to cheat, however if you add a manic episode than all the stops are out and it becomes very likely this was not as you say a one time thing.

When I had read his comment itbecamevery clear to me, the stigma I was working so hard to fight. I explained all about a time I allowed myself to be weak. It is true that it was well before my diagnoses. When I wrote this post I was still struggling to find some understanding in my diagnoses as well as some of my previous actions. I have come to terms with it now and so has my husband. We are okay. I am surprised by the amount of viewsthatpoststill gets so many months after publishing it.

National Institute of Mental Health. April Types of Bipolar Disorder. Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance. Health Topics. Health Tools. Reviewed: April 30, Medically Reviewed. What Exactly Is Hypersexuality? How Do You Treat Hypersexuality? Additional reporting by Barbara Kean. Editorial Sources and Fact-Checking. References Compulsive Sexual Behavior. October 5, Kopeykina I, Kim HJ, et al. She called back another 15 times, so I let my ex answer the phone. She called the police and I dealt with 20 police visits over text messages.

She even got her friend to call me, I called her back, then once I was off the phone her friend called the police. She got my roommate thrown into handcuffs. It goes on and on. This girl, properly medicated, was probably the most amazing girlfriend I ever had. We were the best of friends. Off medications she became an absolute monster, drug user, and I hate to say it, a slut.

Her best friend is also Bipolar I, and lied as soon as she opened her mouth. This girl crawled into bed to cuddle with one of my friends, and when the friend responded to her advances, she suddenly got up and threatened to have hells angels beat him up for trying to touch her.

Same girl kissed a guy and went off about how much she loves to give fellatio, and when the guy tried to advance to the next stage said she was never interested.

Same girl, when I told her her best friend had said she loved me for the first time, said lets go to bed and cuddle — then told my not yet girlfriend I was trying to have sex with her. They can have very attractive personalities.

My ex was flat out told by her doctor after a brainspect to avoid drugs or she could go into psychosis. What did she do?

Stopped taking her medication, did powerful stimulants and went into psychosis, creating a wrecking ball of damage all around her. I completely agree. I have lived with my bipolar mother for 25 years and as the years go by, the lying is only getting worse! And if I call her out on them, she gets incredibly aggressive with me, she has even thrown a beer bottle at me.

She even lied to her new boyfriend about me, told him I had done something which in fact she has done but she was covering up her own tracks. So there went my own reputation. It really bugs me how little support there is for people who have to live with someone who has bipolar. What bugs me even more, when she is stable, she takes no responsibility or accountability for her actions!

I was recently involved with a bipolar man. He is on 3 different meds so I wonder could this lying and deceptive behavior still be associated with his condition even though he is on medication? When I catch my friend that is diagnosed with Bipolar in the act of lying, he quickly says sorry and reminds me that he is Bipolar and can not avoid it.

Is this not intentional manipulation for him to get away with his lies or is this normal Bipolar behavior? He knows he has bipolar but refuses to take medication. And he blames all his actions on me…Really! I tried and prayed for him to better himself, but he continues to do drugs, hooks up with other females, talk lies about me and brings out my anxiety and panic attacks. For about three months, there were some things here or there that I thought were possible red flags, but when I tell you that dating is a second job and compared to the other flags, I thought I was being picky, and that I chalked it up to quirky.

He said it once before, but the next day everything was fine. I saw him for the first time after two weeks today. Well, as we were about to have sex, he shared that he was going on a date tonight at 6. It was at the time. When I left he told me that we should hang out tomorrow and that part of him wants to just try and make it work with me.

I am falling in love with him and I care about him. It just hurts so much that he can so openly say that he wants to date and then says that he k nows of our potential. I feel unimportant. But not thinking straight has been a fact of life for me, the only place I feel solitude is in my lies, does that make sense? Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Where applicable, this content has been reviewed by a medical expert. If you or someone you know are experiencing a medical or mental health crisis that requires immediate intervention, please seek out emergency services.

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