Can i fancy my husband again

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Try our advanced search. Relationship problems. How do you determine desire? The modern relationship The fundamental problem in long-term relationships is that they serve - in modern Western society - two quite contrary purposes. Firstly, they offer a secure base, a sense of home, our safety and security which, previously in our lives, was provided if we were lucky by our family of origin, along with an economic union and co-parenting.

For eg if they go for a meal together which they do once a week she makes a scene, 9 out if 10 times. I hear you say why does that bother you if your not even there? People avoid his mam as she is so annoying so why he continues to let her make a spectackle of him and lo is beyond me.

We lost a lot of money needlessly due to his mam and brother and where most people would challenge what they were doing……not OH, he just continued as normal. That lost money could have taken the kids to Disneyland etc…. He will argue with me though but no one else. The issue is, if I want to continue in a sexless relationship this is fine. I do find one or two others attractive in that way.

Is it normal to feel like this? Anyone else feel similar? Thanks for reading See last answer. Search for a thread. I understand what you mean. I have been married for 6 years and I do love my wife. But my sex drive has waned and she doesn't ignite that spark in me either. We do still have a sex life, but it's more like it's my duty than fun. She's a good mum and we both love our son more than anything in the world. And your Oh does sound like a complete wimp to me, a mummy's boy. I'm not surprised you don't fancy him.

I'm not big and tall and I'm no hard man but I will stand up for myself and my family and my friends too and to be honest, in your position, I have no advice that I think would help. But you are not alone. For myself, I can't imagine being without my wife. I would never cheat, or leave. My son is too important to me. And I do try to be a good husband. I'm not sure why my sex drive has waned, I'm I have read that being a househusband can cause it, so who knows.

I do wonder, why does your OH never bring this up, not having sex. And why he's so laid back that he nearly falls over? You remember who they actually are, you speak to them with respect and love. You build them up.

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